I was getting coffee with a friend today
The women making my coffee called me sweet pea.
Three times in a row
But she did not say it to my friend
Seriously, sweet pea? not once, but three times?
I have mentioned how I dislike being called cute nicknames, like honey, sweetie, babe, and sweet pea
And I really do not like it, even if you are being super nice, even if I know you personally
I do not know exactly why I am spoken to like this all the time, but it makes me feel like a kid.....like I am dumb..like I need to be spoken to sweetly because I am viewed as sensitive or weak
I dont know...
But it has always bothered me
I even hate it when my parents call me honey and sweetie
So if someone I dont know says it to me, it makes me cringe, but I am never rude about it, I just smile and act like it does not bother me
But it really does
It sounds demeaning to me...like you would talk to a child like that
I could be somewhere and a girl next to me would not be called honey, hun, sweetie, darlin, or sweet pea
But I seem to get called these names everywhere I go
I guess I just have a certain look about me....I do not know